People's Perception of You

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I remember a social event I attended once. I was to meet a sort of public figure in that event and it excited me and even encouraged me to go. Upon getting to the event, it didn’t take me 30 minute to realise that I may have been wrong in my judgement of this person. 

We did interact but for the most part I observed. And here are what I saw:

• ·        She spent most time talking about how great she was,
• ·        She spent time talking about everybody’s faults and shortcomings,
• ·        We spent the remaining little time still talking about how great she really was.

I came out of that meeting feeling like she must be a goddess, but most importantly, I felt discouraged. I felt she must be really good in what she does and the rest of us could never really measure up. Finally, I felt like it didn’t matter what I did, I could never be as good as she is. As a result, the only word I could think of when asked what I thought of her was that she was Proud.

A few people did try to change my mind afterwards, but I had a perception of her already and I just couldn’t see the good side these other people were pointing out to me.

Everything we do says something about us. Your actions are your brand, so are your words. The things you do consciously or unconsciously paints a picture of you to the rest of world.

Here is a vivid example, something I know we probably can relate with a lot better. How many times have you read a tweet written by a complete stranger and after reading the tweet you followed the person? Probably a lot more than you can count. Now, let me ask you again, How many times have you read a tweet by someone you are currently following, you read it, you felt so irritated or upset and you clicked the ‘unfollow’ button?

While a lot of it may have to do with your emotions, you have to agree more of it have to with perception. The minute you read a tweet, you are analysing, you are thinking, what kind of person is this? At the same time you are saying to yourself, this pattern of words show a thoughtful person, or a thoughtless person as the case may be. After reading a list of tweet by one person, you may even be able to say, this person is a reader or a traveler, a diplomatic person or a shy person.

In other words, without being seen at all, people can form their own idea of the kind of person you are just from the kind of conversations you are having either online or offline. People know almost 40% about us from listening to what we say, about ourselves, about other people and about the situations in our life.

Interestingly, people will relate with you based on their perception of you. You may ask, how do I know what I am perceived as? People may not always tell you how they feel about you, but they always show it. If you pay attention, you find out. 

However, we all have the power to change people’s perception of us. In the next write up, where we’ll do an extension of this write up, we’ll discuss:

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•            What is your caution fee in public branding?
• ·        How to use perception to your advantage
• ·        The importance of paying attention
• ·        The power to change people’s perception about you.
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